Kobe with Ronald at Changi Terminal 2.
Its been close to 3 months now, since Hippo has shifted/downgraded from her 5-room HDB flat at Bedok Reservoir to a 3-plus room HDB flat at Marsiling Drive. So what has changed since her decision to downgrade and shift? Well, she initially wanted to get a new Filipino Maid, instead of her usual Indonesian one. And becos of her language barrier with the Filipina, there were quite some issues resulting in her NOT wanting the Filipino maid. So did I save abit on that portion? Yes and No. She still demanded more $$. An increase of $300 from her usual monthly allowance of $1000. And so its now $1300 into her own pocket. Again, this sum doesn’t include her handphone bill, house phone bill, Power Utility bill, Star hub Cable TV bill, just to name a few. So you tell me, what has changed?
Just today, she buzzed me on my mobile and complained to me about her being tired from household chores, etc. And then she wanted to buy this $4,000+ mattress or bed, which apparently will make her better from her diabetic and high blood pressure situation. Do you believe in such mattress?? And she OFFERED to use her allowance to offset the monthly instalments of $206 for the payment of the mattress using my credit facilities. Will I fall for that trap again?! I remember not too long ago, this same mom asked me to purchase a set of Hi-Fi system for the home and also wanted to OFFER to offset the payment with her allowance. And what happened? After 1, 2 months she started accusing me of not giving her enuff $$ for her allowance. Hello?! I did not ask to buy that Hi-Fi set? It was a terrible experience for me. I will never believe her words.
It did not end there tonite. She started bringing things up to lecture me, my wife and my son. Yes, my 20-month-old son. She has been complaining non-stop about why Kobe is behaving so badly. Why is he always opening drawers, cupboards, and taking out CDs from her CD racks? I did try my utmost to stop Kobe from doing all those, but he is apparently too active and full of energy. If you ask me, I’d rather my boy is a lively and active lil boy. I will not want him to be sitting still and slouching on the sofa keeping silent. That will worry me. But according to Hippo, Kobe is naughty. Too naughty for her liking. And she blames me and my wife for not bringing him up properly. And I did something too terrible tonite. I shouted at Kobe. =( He cried. I think I frightened him just now. It hurts me. Thoroughly pains my heart to see my boy cry becos of me falling into Hippo’s trap!
And with that, I have to travel all the way from Tampines to Marsiling to help her vacuum and mop her floor. And to buy her dinner. I’m not saying I should not be doing all these, but I think she should not be “holding on” to me. I know she is ultimately my mom. But I think I have my own life to live too. When I was there at her place just now, she kept complaining about how Kobe has damaged her nice and beautiful floor tiles with his toy cars. What kind of a Grandma is she?! I am sure she will say that she bought Kobe his car seat and walker. But you mean you have to be so calculative as a Grandma? It disappoints me, really. I told her straight in her face just now that I will not be brining Kobe to visit her in the near future. For fear that he may damaged her floor tiles further. And again I wanna emphasize this point – There is no more love, just a duty.