Boi in the Tub

Kobe@13mths-22, originally uploaded by Lobinhoot.

I was actually having a rather good mood, until Hippo called. =( She’s complaining I should not be accumulating her PUB Bills. But does she know that she is the ONE USING IT?! If I have the means to pay off her bills monthly, why should I be accumulating her bills?! I was asking around on FB what should be the rightful percentage a filial child be giving his/her parent each month? There was no right answer to that question. Should it be 50%? 40%? 10%? 60%? What do you think?

I am not a rich guy. I don’t earn big bucks. But I have to sustain Hippo’s monthly allowance of $1000, her PUB bills of $300 (minimum, sometimes $400+), Handphone bills of $30 – $50, home phone of $100+, Maid salary of $500+ (with levy), monthly medication of $100+, Cable TV of $50+, monthly prayers of $100+ (twice a month of buying fruits, incense papers, etc). That probably adds up to about $2000+ each month, just to sustain her lifestyle and expenses. And she is still expecting and wanting to receive $50 per day from me, which equates to about $1500 per month. She told me money is now very “small”. Yes, I agree that the living costs in S’pore has gone up. But why can’t she live with what she has? She always tells me that when my dad was around, she used to get another $400 – $500 per month from his taxi earnings. But now that my dad is gone, she is expecting me to ”cough up” the extra $400 – $500.

$2000 is more than half my monthly pay. How am I to survive? If my wife is not understanding, I think we would’ve long been seperated or even divorced becos of Hippo. But Hippo expects my wife to be contributing to her too. She still think she is living in the era where daughter-in-laws should be providing for the family.

I really think I owe my wife too much. She need not have to suffer with me, but she chose to do so. And sometimes I feel so bad that I could not even get the money to buy milk powder for my own son. Why do I haf to suffer like this? Why do WE haf to suffer like this? My buddy suggested I go to the authorities/or a lawyer to find out how can I protect my family from her demands. I used to tolerate Hippo alot. But I think she is getting overboard. She is too much. If your mom just nags at you and doesn’t have such unreasonable demands, count your blessings. Like a friend told me once - There is no more love… Its just a duty I am fulfilling now…